Truthfully, it may be a cultural thing in the millennial and/or African-American community so let me explain what that means if you don’t know. When you “take an L” essentially it means you’re taking a Loss. You lost that battle and it’s time to throw in the towel. And unfortunately, this can be catastrophic to our confidence and make us vulnerable to ridicule. In the world of social media, you don’t want to “take an L” on the wrong things. You may just turn into the latest viral meme.
Here’s a short story
I was watching a show on Netflix called Rhythm and Flow, and although I’m not the biggest fan of rap music, this show was interesting and I was grateful to pick up on a small nugget. Each round, at least one artist is sent home. It’s nerve-racking enough for me to recite a pre-written script in front of anyone, let alone put words together eloquently into a poem on an 8-count thumping beat in front of a crowd! So I was living vicariously through them. One eliminated artist however, said something that was very profound to me. She said, “I don’t take L’s, only Lessons” and I had to pause the show and write that quote down. Because it’s so true. It made me think about how judgmental we can be and how it’s no longer okay to grow and make mistakes. Nowadays, you have to already be an expert and that’s so unrealistic. No one, in the history of mankind, has been an expert at anything new on the first try. Were you an expert at walking when you first tried? No. You weren’t even an expert at holding your head up! You had to build the muscle for that, so let’s get rid of the stigma that’s been placed on GROWTH. Growth is beautiful, it evolves you, it changes you, it makes you stronger than you were years before, so from now on I want us to take on a new mantra of what it means to “take an L”
L stands for Lessons
It no longer stands for Loss. Losses correlate to things you can’t have. You lose a job with a certain company. But you learn what to do for the next one you apply for. You lose a comfortable life you can no longer afford but you learn how to work with what you have and make better money decisions. You lose friends or relationships that were no longer working but you learn more about yourself and what you will and won’t tolerate. Focus on the lessons! That’s where the blessing is. The beginning of 2019 is when I made the conscious and public effort to walk with God and I’ve done my very best to remind myself everything I go through is to GROW me. And it’s truly been life-changing.
The thing is, we’ve made it through 100% of every hardship we’ve faced. I know this because you’re alive and reading this article. But how hardships affects us is the part we must master. Are you going to let it rock your whole world? Let it slow you down? Let it discourage you? Let it keep you in the bed when you KNOW you should be up and making moves? Or are you going to use it as fuel to keep going? To keep pursuing your goals? And use it as a confirmation you’re on the right path? (Because I personally believe when you’re on the right path, forces will come against you harder than ever before)
You have to decide now and commit to it because the hard truth is: “Stuff” will keep happening. If you’re spiritual like myself then you know there’s even other forces you have to fight with to stay on track that will never stop attacking you. And I personally believe when you’re on the right path, forces will come against you harder than ever before. They’ll use funny but hurtful tactics like “taking an L” to slow and discourage you. So you have to be careful to not slip back into a dark state. Your goals are going to literally save someone’s life! I promise you, but that’s if you reach them. And to reach them, you have lessons to learn! So GROW. Make mistakes and be grateful for every single one. You are that much closer to your dreams.